Our good friend and very talented designer, Robyn, was chatting with both Alicia and myself and she brought up the topic of wedding blogs being at times a little too “Styled”. We were intrigued and asked her if she would like to write a post. She agreed!
Robyn is the Lead Designer for Bare Root Flora in Denver, CO.
I’m compelled to preface this piece with a qualifier, lest you be tempted to throw anything at me if you think I’m off my vintage rocker! Like any other devotee of the wedding blogosphere, I get giddy and jumpy-clappy over all the amazing and well-styled shoots and real weddings we’re fortunate enough to be able to enjoy every day thanks to the fabulously talented people who create them. But—and don’t shoot me—do you ever think to yourself that maybe some of what we see is a little…overstyled?
I mean, I can be as wowed by amazing props and fun themes as anyone. But part of me also thinks, “Props? This is a wedding, not a stage production.” Isn’t the overarching theme, you know, wedding? And I don’t mean “wedding” in an intertwining-hearts-and-doves-and-paper-bells kind of way. I mean in the it’s-really-about-the-couple kind of wedding way. Sometimes mustaches and circus themes and umbrellas and giant balloons and vintage airplanes get to be, well, a bit much. All these details sometimes add up to a little more than the sum of their parts and threaten to swallow up the whole event. It sometimes strikes me that the intent is just to get a great photo shoot. Which I guess if what you’re styling IS a great photo shoot, that’s not such a bad thing. (And I’ll be the first to admit that if I’m asked to collaborate on a top-notch photo session, I’m there.)
But if the goal is a really great wedding that is just so YOU, maybe style should trump styled. Maybe every little detail should be less trend-of-the-moment and more who-you-really-are-as-a-person. A little less “this will be great for pictures” and a little more “I’ll always remember this moment.” Which is not to say that you don’t end up with really cool details and a drool-worthy magazine or blog spread. But the spreads I get most excited about aren’t the ones that are over the top and super hip and loaded with cool props, they’re the ones where I can see that the personality of the couple is the most unforgettable and important detail.
I guess what I’m arguing for is that wedding style—real, unadulterated style—doesn’t need to come in the form of a trend everybody’s doing, or the perfect theme, or the de rigeur props. Show me who you really are, and how much of yourself you incorporate into your day—it will trump a rented vintage airplane any day.
Lead Designer, Bare Root Flora