After 19 years in the wedding industry I truly have learned what it takes to be a good wedding provider, not just a good floral designer, but a really good solid wedding professional. For the purpose of this letter I have chosen to identify us as wedding professionals rather than wedding vendors. Vendors sell products, wedding professionals provide a product and a hidden service. A good wedding professional realizes that being allowed to participate in a wedding day is a privilege. Yes of course it’s our job, and yes profit and loss is of concern, but most importantly we are to be of service. No profit, no recognition, matters as much as the service we provide not only to our clients, but to the entire chosen team of wedding professionals. The individual jobs we do, and how well we perform them will affect the entire work flow of an event. Wedding professionals are the care takers and providers of a bride and grooms most important day and we need to take this role very seriously. A good wedding professional thoroughly completes the task they were hired to do. A professional vendor should also look about and assess where else they can be of service, is anyone in trouble, is there any little thing that can be done, is there an opportunity to go above and beyond? A good wedding professional treats all of the other service providers at an event with respect. It does not matter if you are the florist, the baker or the candlestick maker, a solid professional knows that we all need each other to make a wedding perfect. There is no hierarchy, there is no room for ego or drama, or for workers that create stress. Each one of us is dependent on the next to create an incredible wedding day. A good wedding professional is constantly trouble shooting and always preparing for a worst case scenario. I have found over the years if I have a back up plan or a rain plan, I don’t need it. A good wedding professional will consistently make choices that are best for the bride and groom, even if it effects the profit margin.
You often hear me singing the praises of my favorite wedding pros on twitter, facebook and my blog. I do that because I truly appreciate when I see my colleagues giving 100 percent, it’s how I roll. In general I love my work and my career, as long as I am surrounded by like minded and amazing designers, artists, and workers. I never ever want to work on an event again that has even one person on the wedding team that is apathetic, uninterested, or just plain lazy. I have witnessed a lot of truly incredible moments in the last 19 years and thankfully very few epic fails. There is no room in this industry for those who want to do the job halfheartedly or for those who are not fully committed. I want to see photographers who are passionate about getting the shot, but kind enough to check their egos at the door, I want to see caterers, or banquet staff, that arrive on time so that the rest of the event can begin to develop, I want to see wedding planners who are willing to roll up their sleeves and get their heels dirty, I want to see perfectly pretty petals, and I always want to see a happy bride.
There is no regulation in the wedding industry, no code of service or standards, and no code of ethics. It has been a very long wedding season and most wedding professional are very tired right now, the constant giving of heart and soul can certainly be draining, I get that. There have been incredible challenges this year, product shortages, torrential rains, hurricanes, and a continuously sagging economy. We as professionals cant give in or get stressed out, we have to dig deep and give a little more. So I will suggest this, if you are a service provider and you can’t put a smile on your face and do all that you were hired to do, and ten times more, perhaps you should consider leaving the wedding industry. Know that your peers are watching you and how you provide your service. Know that if you are an awesome wedding professional your praises will be sung by wedding professional to wedding clients. Know that everyone will want you on the wedding team!! If however you are rude, disrespectful, worried about profit over service, and not a team player, your colleagues will most certainly share that also. For now this is the only code in our industry.
Are you lovingly, and caringly, performing the tasks you were hired to do? If so, you are a fully committed wedding professional!! A bride and groom deserve this one day. As the wedding professionals it’s our job to make it better than the couple ever dreamed it could be.